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Miss E is undertaking the latest, hottest approach to ADHD and problems with working memory and executive function. It's a computer 'game' called RoboMemo made in Sweden by Cogmed. Works with patterns of light, numbers and letters, lots of spacial memory as well. It gets progressively more difficult the better she does, eases up when she makes two mistakes in a row. Five weeks, five sessions per week. Lots of dollars.

There were forms to fill out for the 'before' analysis. Most interesting of these are the teacher responses that show Asperger's symptoms continue to show up, though mildly. And I identify with every one of them.



Can't get her mind off certain thoughts; obsessions
Daydreams or gets lost in her thoughts
Doesn't get along with other pupils
Difficulty following directions
Would rather be alone than with others
Nervous, high-strung or tense
Overconforms to rules
Talks out of turn (my entire family does this to the annoyance of others)
Self-conscious or easily embarrassed
Stubborn, sullen or irritable
Withdrawn, doesn't get involved with others
Worries
Overreacts to small problems
Becomes upset with new situations
Resists or has trouble accepting a different way to solve a problem
Acts upset by a change in plans
Does not notice when her behvior causes negative reactions
Has poor understanding of own strengths and weaknesses
Small events trigger big reactions

Etc.

She's such a chip off the old block that I had trouble seeing that anything was wrong, other than she wasn't progressing at the rate I expected. From babyhood. But her school issues (and life issues in the future) pretty much mirror my own. I do my best to present a different face, have tried to learn how to behave as expected in some 'norm' standard. I did a lot of drama and plays when I was younger. It's not you on the stage, it's someone else. Exhausting, but it works.

Which might explain why I'm happier surrounded by chickens, cats, dogs and flora of all kinds than I ever was in an office. Why I was not cut out to be a manager. Why it was so stressful for me to try and 'read' every social/work situation and why I now avoid them as much as possible. Why I'm so present here on the internet rather than in person in my community. Why I use the self-check line at the grocery store. And even, why I'm a writer by vocation.

Frog

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maralton
Mar. 29th, 2007 02:48 pm (UTC)
Well, it is interesting. Genetically, I have some of this, but not all. I enjoy a lot of alone time, but sometimes I want people around. I enjoy being a manager, as I define the role of that as a coach. I like teaching and leading. But then I do need to come to the 10 Acre Farm and recharge. Parts of the mother and parts of the father. By the way, is Winnie the Pooh flag out yet?
birdhousefrog
Mar. 29th, 2007 02:53 pm (UTC)
1. You're ADHD, not Asperger's. The Asperger's skipped you.
2. Believe it or not, the Christmas flag is still out.
kelly_yoyo
Mar. 29th, 2007 04:53 pm (UTC)
I can't tell whether you're amused or irritated by this list of symptoms, so I'm hesitating to make a comment. But to heck with it... here's what I was going to say:

Looking at that list, heck, I think we all have Asperger's! It's kind of like an astrological sign description -- nearly all of us fit nearly every one.
birdhousefrog
Mar. 29th, 2007 05:09 pm (UTC)
Neither amused nor irritated. And yes, it fits a lot of people. Many engineers have Asperger's. But believe it or not, there are people that DON'T have any of these symptoms and someone calls them 'normal.' I do think it fits writers...we like to control our universe.

Like following rules, for example. I run into people in the DC area (it seems especially) that think rules are for other people. Me, I get concerned if I'm given a set of rules. I think I'm supposed to follow them literally. Like this training program. She wants to do it 6 days a week, not 5. I would have said no, because there must be a reason for the rule, but I checked with her coach. And yes, she can do it more than 5 times a week. It will shorten the total time accordingly. But I never would have thought of deviating from that rule on my own. Other people wouldn't think twice, would just consider it a target amount instead of worrying that the entire training would implode if you deviate.

It bothers us both when other people don't follow 'the rules.' It bothers us both when we're in a situation and we feel we don't understand the rules. I was just remarking that these things the teachers are noting as slightly present and 'different' in my child have always made me feel out of step with the rest of the world. But I feel in step with her.

Oz
kelly_yoyo
Mar. 29th, 2007 05:19 pm (UTC)
Having a mom who understands and is in step with her will continue to be a great benefit to her through her life, I am sure.
(Anonymous)
Apr. 1st, 2007 06:42 am (UTC)
I wish my mom had been in step with me. My brother and I are both Aspies, and it makes things fun. We have the whole list... he's just a much better actor than I am. He can even fake eye contact. I, on the other hand, seem to be hopeless. Oh well.
birdhousefrog
Apr. 1st, 2007 11:46 am (UTC)
Your Mom is soooo definitely NOT Asperger's. Your dad, on the other hand, wouldn't surprise me. It's mostly genetic. It's about what makes you 'different' and it bothers some people and not others to be 'different.' I always felt out of step somehow and didn't know why. Somehow with the munchkin there is something else there as well that is inhibiting her development, something that affected her 'working memory.' Which is what this very cool game is all about.
(Anonymous)
Apr. 1st, 2007 06:43 am (UTC)
Oop, sorry, that was from me.

Chile Rox
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