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Not the Heidi Chronicles

Since Heidi has found time in her busy mothering schedule to read the blog, this is no longer the Heidi chronicles. Oh, and Heidi? I've added a convenient tag "heidi update." You can click on that tag and it should load a page of the blog entries directed to amuse you. If you tell me what doesn't amuse you, I won't tag those entries as a heidi update.

Do you know? My knee went wonky in the barn on Tuesday and it was exactly a year and a day after my knee completely blew up after bowling with Weatherdude. That took many many weeks to go back to normal. I'm hoping that this time I took care of it fast enough so I'll be able to get on a horse in two weeks. Is my left knee. I sort of need that knee to mount.

Meanwhile, the rats have opened up one of their holes again. I dragged dirt right back into it, just to annoy them. And the woodchuck continues to flip the lid off of the scratch, which isn't what he wants to eat. The barricade continues to work. He's not getting to the soy crumbles and he's not tipping the cans over.

Miss E had a doctor's appt for her medical mystery body. We're going to go to a geneticist next. Because it's not CF and it's not anything in her digestive system. Turner's syndrome is unlikely, but she will probably get tested for it. She's not celiac or anything. Just some reflux. Which we already knew about two years ago. So when I said to her doctor that it took a list price of $17.5k (endoscopy and colonoscopy with pathologies) to get the answer that she had reflux, he responded "you think that's bad? My daughter encountered a bat at camp and had to have rabies shots. $12k for 4 shots. We could have taken the entire family on a European vacation for that much money." So even doctors are a bit stunned by the list prices associated with US medical care these days. (Which isn't what you pay on insurance, btw. For example, we ultimately paid $2.5k for her procedure out of the $17.5k after the insurance company slapped it all down to below $10k with their contract agreements and then paid their share. And half of what we paid was the doctor, who doesn't take anyone's insurance because he's that good and doesn't need to. But still. The list prices are insane. People without health insurance are expected to pay those. And you have to have a really good insurance company to get the best negotiated rates. Something just isn't right about how our system works.)

I have five returns on extension. A colleague has plunked a short story in my lap for reading. I have a 3rd erotic ebook by another colleague that needs to be read and critiqued for tweaking. I'm driving the new diesel up to Boston next weekend and driving home again.

And in all of that, I'd really like to be working on ditchrider.

Frog Out

Here, have a photo:

That's my mom from two years ago. I'm going to see her in Boston. Because I have a car that's reliable again.


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Sep. 25th, 2011 02:48 pm (UTC)
I totally agree about U.S. medical costs. In fact, I'm sure most people would. I was without insurance of any kind for three years. Being diabetic, that made life very expensive. Then, when I was unemployed for four months...YIKES!

Have a good trip next weekend!

Hope your knee improves quickly!
Sep. 25th, 2011 03:02 pm (UTC)
And you didn't have access to the negotiated rates, either. That's what really concerned me when you were blogging about it back then. We just don't have a good system. It's not that it costs something, it's that the playing field isn't at all level and it's stacked against the people without insurance. It makes no sense that I get to have special rates (bloodwork at 10% of list price, for example) just because I'm in a group health plan.
Sep. 25th, 2011 07:35 pm (UTC)
I don't want to brag, but if I needed rabies shots here in Spain, I'd just show up at my local medical clinic or wherever the doctors there referred me to and get the shots -- for free!

Well, not free. I do have to pay taxes. And it's socialized medicine, so it's evil. Still, per-person annual costs here for medical care are less than half of US costs, and people in Spain live longer, healthier lives.

And if that were not enough, I'm on European vacation every hour that I'm not working.

Seriously, though, the US system is bat-shit crazy. I'm scared to come back.

Sep. 29th, 2011 08:59 pm (UTC)
LJ is at it again. Your comment just posted to my email. Yes, one pays for it whether it's socialized or not. What's crazed about our system is who pays what. Those without insurance are treated so differently. What we need is a level playing field and maybe some incentives for healthy living. If it weren't for the kid, I wouldn't be at a doctor's very often. What has amazed me is how much of her NEEDED care to combat early learning delays wasn't covered by our insurance and we paid list price for it. If I hadn't, she'd be a burden to the taxpayers by now.
Sep. 25th, 2011 07:50 pm (UTC)
Yes, this is type of update I like to read. But I was hoping there would be some more fun or drama to report from the mother-daughter road trip. All I've gathered so far is that you attended a wedding and went to a movie during an earthquake. Surely there was something juicy to report-- or does Miss E read your blog? T never reads mine, so I post about him with impunity. I understand if you actually respect the privacy of your household members :-)
Sep. 29th, 2011 09:02 pm (UTC)
It's so sad that I can't feed your mother-daughter war syndrome. Miss E and I had the loveliest summer. We holed up in this house in Philly and streamed Netflix and went out for Carvel ice cream and to Fresh Fields, which is right down the street instead of 30 miles away. We butted heads when she tried to do some math, but I just backed down. It was still summer, after all. Mostly we slept in the same guest bed, doted on the same cat, and streamed movies/tv shows on our separate macs. And agreed that we were having a grand old time. I could get used to being this sort of mother.
Sep. 29th, 2011 10:15 pm (UTC)
I guess I'm just used to moms with toddler girls, and there is always some sort of drama to report. I guess you're proof that it really does get easier. From all the anecdotal evidence I've heard so far I figure I've got it real easy with two boys.

Glad you had a nice summer!
Sep. 30th, 2011 10:34 am (UTC)
It depends on the parent, frankly. And it depends on the child. I've always thought boys were more difficult than girls. What kind of drama do these moms report? Her toddler and younger school days were a mess of learning delays and therapy. That's not about the gender.

I hate to say it, but I run into a huge amount of gender prejudice against girls. Countering that takes a lot of parenting energy.
Oct. 1st, 2011 12:21 am (UTC)
The drama with the toddler-girls seems to fall into two general categories-- either they have a ridiculous meltdown regarding clothing, or they say something outrageously over-the-top cruel or manipulative or downright rude remark(although they seem to be more aiming to just get a reaction out of the parents than understanding the true lack of propriety in their words). A recent example would be the 4-yr-old who said, "Daddy, DO AS I SAY!". Yeah, I guess a lot of the reports have to do with bossiness. . . I can't think of the particulars of another episode I had in mind, but the girl was naughty, and when asked why she replied something or other that implied it was the mother's fault. But really the mom knew she was upset about something else, but the girl just wanted to 1) absolve herself of responsibility for the misbehavior and 2) make her mom feel guilty at the same time.

Boys in general I gather are more straightforward. For example when W did something naughty the other day, I asked why. He didn't give me any runaround about because I'm a bad mama or try to shift blame, he just said directly that he was naughty because I was holding his little brother, M, instead of giving W my full attention. Girls make you guess what is really upsetting them. Boys just spit it out. At least that is the overgeneralization as I've accepted it so far.

I figured a pre-teen would be good for a few "you just don't understand" tantrums, or at least some fusses based on utterly misguided priorities (from the adult perspective), and therefore potentially amusing anecdotes. But I agree that parenting styles are key, but at least if not more so is the general temperament of the child-- some kids just get along with one or both of their parents really well, and other kids clash, through no major fault of either.
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Sep. 29th, 2011 09:02 pm (UTC)
I turned down yoga again this week. Not taking any chances! If I'm blowing out the knee, I'm doing in AZ! (rhymes)
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